Selfcare Tips

🤔 How to be Happy On a Monday

Happy Monday! … Right?

*insert awkward silence*

… What?

You mean you’re not happy? You’re telling me you’re miserable because you have 5 days left of work before you can relax again?

Damn…

Ok, well I really want you to be happy! And before you start questioning whether I’m oblivious to life’s problems, I’ll straight-up tell you I DO NOT THINK happiness is a 24/7 state of mind. I think happiness is something we choose to feel or find so that we can more easily be resilient in the face of adversity. This means you can be sad, anxious, stressed, or have any other negative reaction but you still decide to learn from experience, find positive aspects of your experience, and figure out how the hell you can keep moving forward.

You can find the key to happiness. I think I found it. Finding it was incredibly hard, but so incredibly worth it. Remember inner peace, positive mind.

That said, I need you to learn the key to happiness for the betterment of your health, your relationships, and your productivity. And as you may have guessed, I am going to tell you that key using this nifty analogy:

Think about the lightbulb in your kitchen. You know, the one you turned on this morning to make a cup of coffee before heading out the door.

That light works because a small wire inside the lightbulb creates a circuit of electricity, and that electricity is drawn-in from whatever source the lightbulb is plugged in to. So when you turn the light on…BOOM, HAPPINESS…wait no, I mean LIGHT! Hmmm… they are quite similar, don’t you think?

A lightbulb shines from within. Just like the lightbulb, you can find true happiness and shine from within.

Imagine yourself as that lightbulb.

If you want to shine, the little wire circuit inside of you has to (1) create a closed circuit, and (2) be plugged into a source of electricity.

So just like the light, happiness comes from within you; it is a decision you make to regard at least some part of an experience as positive (even if that just means learning from something shitty). HOWEVER you can’t forget about “plugging-in” to good sources of electricity like family, friends, content such as books and films, work, hobbies, etc.

But… remember that even if you’re plugged-in to the right things, you can’t find true happiness unless the wire circuit inside you is complete.

To find true happiness, you have to follow the personal development loop. What this means, is you have to give yourself the right doses of self-care, self-development, and self-discipline in order to live a balanced life.

Stressed from work? Use your lunch break to assess why that is.

Concerned about money? Take 2 hours on a weekend to set-up a budget.

Want to wake up earlier? Work on getting more restful sleeps then accept that you need to wake up when your alarm goes off EVEN THOUGH that will be hard.

You can do it. But that “it” you’re looking for can only come from you.

And to clarify again, I am NOT telling you to become happy 24/7 and therefore oblivious to the challenges of life. I AM telling you it is possible to learn how to manage shitty circumstances. Because the quicker you can bounce back from a tough time or pull through a struggle, the quicker you will get back to happiness.

So why is happiness important?

1) Your relationships will improve because others will enjoy being around you.

2) Your outlook on life will improve, therefore bettering your mental health.

3) Most importantly, happiness will motivate you to continue developing yourself.

And speaking from personal experience, my focus on happiness has VASTLY reduced my stress, improved my patience, and even improved my general attitude towards life.

Because I’ve trained myself to see the positive aspects of life while also learning from the negative aspects, there’s nothing that can stop me from moving forward.

So in conclusion…

… remember to be like that lightbulb in your kitchen. Because once you are, you’ll shine bright for everyone around you….once you are, you’ll be happy.

Shine bright like a lightbulb, bright with happiness.

So as always, I hope you have a very happy Monday ❤✌

“Outside, winter’s darkness closes in. Inside, you have found your own Light.” – Sarah Ban Breathnach

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Selfcare Tips

Bonus: My Top 8 Books for Self-care

Bonus blog!

If you read my most recent blog post, you know I did a lot of reading during 2018. Most of the books I read were all about being introspective, attempting to understanding the universe we live in, and ultimately how to be happy and fulfilled in life.

So I decided to compile my top 8 books for self-care. If you read any of them, please let me know what you think in the comment section below 🙂

Please note that some of the links are affiliate links which means I will make a small commission off each purchase. Any commission I receive helps me to continue creating free content.

1. The Book of Afformations: Discovering the Missing Piece to Abundance, Health, Wealth, Love and Happiness by Noah St. John
Why I love it: This book changed the way I think about creating success habits. Unlike anything I’ve ever read, this book presents easy questions which automatically result in authentic answers to improve life and well-being!

To purchase: https://amzn.to/2BIg4iM

2. 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos by Dr. Jordan B. Peterson
Why I love it: This book is written in such a way that is is IMpossible to NOT realize where you need to improve your life. Learn why creating meaning in life is more important than anything else, and how meaning acn lead to happiness and fulfillment.

To purchase: https://amzn.to/2BI06p1

3. You are the Answer by Michael J. Tamura
Why I love it: This book allowed me to connect with myself on a spiritual level. After reading this, I realized exactly what the title suggests: I am the answer to my difficulties in life, and only I can create the path toward the solutions.

To purchase: https://amzn.to/2SnZNXn

4. Resilience: Navigating Life, Loss, and the Road to Success by Lisa Lisson
Why I love it: Wow. Just wow. Reading Lisa Lisson’s account of hardship as well as personal success made me incredibly grateful for my life; I realized I must stop taking things (and time) for granted as I pursue my life goals.

To purchase: https://amzn.to/2BIgGFi

5. The Happiness Equation: Want Nothing + Do Anything = Have Everything by Neil Pasricha
Why I love it: I realized success does not equal happiness. You must find harmony in what you say, think, and do.

To purchase: https://amzn.to/2Vb6z4A

6. Seven Thousand Ways to Listen: Staying Close to What is Sacred by Mark Nepo
Why I love it: Introspective and Poetic. This book allowed me to find hope in the world and hope in my life.

To purchase: https://amzn.to/2CAq0MP

7. Top Brain Bottom Brain: Harnessing the Power of the Four Cognitive Modes by Dr. Stephen M. Kosslyn and G. Wayne Miller
Why I love it: This book provided me with a new understanding of how the brain works. Forget the limiting idea of left brain versus right brain, and instead open yourself up to multiple functions of your top brain and bottom brain!

To purchase: https://amzn.to/2LCy1np

8. Ten Messages Your Angel’s Want You to Know by Doreen Virtue
Why I love it: This book provided me with the realization I am not alone, as well as the courage to take my first step toward self-development.

To purchase: https://amzn.to/2VeMuKA

Check-out my entire book list on Goodreads @ ellasssofia 🙂

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New Beginnings, Selfcare Tips

Passion >>> Complacency

!PSA! Take this 3-question quiz that will guarantee 1 of 4 possibilities: (1) you have an a-ha moment, (2) you give yourself a pat on the back (3) you have an oh-s***-what-am-I-doing moment, or (4) some combination of 1 & 3!

Question 1- How old are you?

Question 2a – What are you doing in this chapter of your life?

Question 2b – Is what you’re doing considered “normal” for your age?

……If yes, say “yes it is but who really cares if my life is normal” and move to question 3.

……If no, say “no it is not but who really cares if my life is normal” and move to question 3.

Question 3-Is what you’re doing making you truly happy?

…..If yes, then please accept this emoji high-five *insert emoji high-five*.

…..If no, why are you doing it? (And accept an emoji high-five anyways because you’re probably the bomb).

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Two weeks ago I posted a blog about “investing in yourself” and in it I mentioned I wanted to draw out that belief. I wanted to hold on to that belief with both my hands!

Recently I decided to take that belief and crank it up a notch — I wanted to live and breathe that belief so I could hold onto it with my WHOLE HEART!

So how did I do this?…I stopped my normal life, decided to follow my passion, and started this blog. And now I am dedicating the rest of my life to helping others realize they should follow their passions too. Super exciting, right!?!?! …Wrong…(ish).

It’s actually a bit nerve-wracking. And sometimes I feel like the picture below:

It is definitely not easy to take a huge risk without being certain you’ll be re-paid. So why take such a risk???…PASSION! Seriously, that’s it. Sure I have the support of my immediate family and closest friends, but even if I didn’t, I swear passion alone would keep me going.

If you are complacent with your life and that is the way you want to keep it, that is totally fine – no hard feelings. But I am telling you with 100% certainty that pushing past complacency to complete fulfillment will bring you joy like nothing else will.

Whether it’s starting a blog, writing a book, or spending more time with family, follow your passion and you WILL find true happiness. Whether you’re 14, or 20, or 56 years old, do what brings you fulfillment and I promise you WILL find a passion for life itself 🙂

Selfcare Tips

I LOVE MONDAYS :) (please read if you don’t agree)

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Yes, you read the title correctly. I LITERALLY love Mondays! And I will tell you why:

When Monday morning rolls around, I wake-up and realize I have another 7 days of the week to kick some serious a**! I am honestly so fired-up about life! Who the heck doesn’t want more time to live the best life they can possibly live!?

As I go through-out my day, I of course check social media. And low and behold I always see a constant stream of hate toward Mondays. What did Monday ever do to you? Does Monday deserve so much hate? I don’t think I’ve gone a week without seeing a meme about Monday being the worst day of the week, or a bunch of talk about how people live for the weekends. Don’t fall for that s***!

Think about every moment you wished for “more time” or the moments you said you’d do that thing “if only there were 25 hours in a day”. Well Monday is your chance to do that thing…and all the damn things! Because you have more than 25 hours… you have 168 hours in the week that just began!

So this week challenge yourself! Instead of starting off the week by sulking, think about 1 thing you wanted to do last week but maybe didn’t. Figure out how many hours/minutes it will take to do that thing, then schedule it in your calendar for this week. Did you do it yet…? Seriously do it now (or at least after you’re done reading this post). Just 1 task, that is all you have to focus on. Lucky you, because you now have the next 168 hours to get that task done!! If you can’t think of a task or you don’t have anything to do, I’ll give you a really simple one: scroll down to the bottom of this page and type your email into a box that says “follow!”. Then click on the “follow” button to stay up-to-date on all my blog posts! Woo! #MondaysRockandSoDoYou

New Beginnings

The Adventure Begins…

“Just when the caterpillar thought her life was over, she began to fly.”

​This past year I’ve arrived at a peaceful place.  At 24 years old, my soul is at ease and my heart is full of joy.  I have learned that taking care of my body and my mind is not a chore; I have learned that I do not have to make extra time in my day to practice self-care.

Self-care has become my lifestyle, and I am dedicating the rest of my life to help others realize the same.

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