Make happy a habit! Even though that can be hard as f***.
For anyone who doesn’t know, I love my bullet journal!! (Check out my Instagram @selfcarelifestyle_ to see my drawings and spreads).
At the end of August, I decided I would incorporate a mood tracker into my bujo monthly spread for September. I never did a mood tracker before that point because I thought I would always forget to actually track my mood!
But… with a big move across the country just around the corner (check out my previous blog post to see photos), I figured it might be fun to see how my mood changed throughout the month.
So I got my creative juices flowing and drew up a mood tracker for the month of September. Check it out below!
Looking at it now, I am glad too see all my happy days. And it does not make me upset to see days where I had sadness, anger, or anxiety. I like using a mood tracker because it challenges me to be happy, and I can reflect on the days I felt negative emotions by asking questions like “What made me feel that way?” and “Could I have reacted differently?”
All that to say, I want to touch on three important things regarding mood:
1) I used to think my sad days were easier to live out than my happy days…and I actually think they still are.
I figured being “down in the dumps” was normal for me so I became content with being sad (a bit of a paradox?). Well, it might be easier being sad than happy BUT I am telling you right now, the best decisions in life are NOT the easiest ones. And when the right decision comes to fruition, there is no better feeling in the world. If things like being happy were easy, then there would be no such thing as jealousy or anger or depression or anxiety. But those negative moods do exist, and I’ll be the first to tell you I feel all of them.
There are more days than not when I actually feel myself working hard to be happy…It’s as if my car engine is working to drive up a hill from Point A (a negative or neutral mood) to Point B (a positive or happy mood). And when I get to Point B and realize how awesome it is there, it motivates me to do the same thing the next time I feel down.
2) Momentum Momentum Momentum!
Like I said in my previous point, getting to the finish line motivates you to run another race. Each day I choose happy, I give myself momentum to do the same the next day. Choosing happy is definitely harder for some people than others, but once you start rolling it actually gets harder to slow down.
On the other hand, I can also say one of the reasons being sad was easy, was because each consecutive day I chose “sad”, I gave myself momentum to keep being sad. If I look at the span of my life and reflect on the days I was sad, I can tell you, in hindsight, they were NOT good days. I was less productive, I had no self-discipline, I was lazy, and I negatively impacted my relationships. So try try try and challenge yourself to make happy a habit!
3) It’s ok to not always be happy!
We are all human right? So having a moment of sad, or angry, or anxious is completely normal. In fact, I think it’s great! Here me out: If I have the ability to to feel one emotion, that means I have the ability to feel all emotions! I think it is fascinating to know I can feel just as, if not more happy one day than I may have been sad the previous day. We, as humans, are lucky as sh** because we have the ability to choose what we want in our lives and feel things we didn’t even know we could feel! So remember if your emotions fluctuate, you are human!! Sometimes it takes a hobby, or a relationship, or a walk alone in nature to clear your mind, but no matter how you choose to go about it, you have the human power to choose “happy”.
So how badly do you want to be happy? If you want to choose happy, it may be hard as f***…but in the end it will be worth it!