Being Thankful is Not Enough – You Must Forge Meaning

If you’re familiar with personal development content, I’m sure you’ve heard this one before:

“Write down 10 things you are thankful for, to help you recognize the good in your life.”

That works. It definitely works.

But what if the things you are thankful for aren’t enough to make you happy? What if you need a little bit more than a list of 10 good things in your life to make you want to live your life everyday?

Forging meaning from this beautiful bouquet of flowers.
Thankful always

It’s Not About “Finding” Meaning

I think it’s safe to say that one of the hardest parts about hitting rock bottom is finding reasons to continue living. And if you watched this week’s YouTube video, then you already know 3 unique ways you can create that will to live. And if you haven’t watched it yet, do that first by clicking here, then come right back to this blog post.

Meaning to live is one of the most (if not the most) sought after answers people search for in life. “Why am I here?” “What is my purpose?” “Who am I meant to become?”… those are three question I hear a lot, and if you’re familiar with my blog posts, then you already know there are no specific answers to those questions. People search everyday for skills they excel at, relationships that “work”, and jobs they succeed in, as if doing those things for the rest of their lives is enough to give them a will to live. And to no one’s surprise, those skills, relationships, and jobs themselves usually aren’t enough keep someone happy forever (that’s why many people change jobs and divorce their partners).

Are you one of those people? The kind that searches for meaning, hoping you’ll “just know” once you find it.

I’m telling you, you’ll search and search, but you’ll never finding the satisfaction you’re looking for. And that’s because meaning cannot be actually be found, but rather, it must be forged.

It’s About Forging Meaning

You are the Master of your own destiny. It’s cheesy, but it’s true.

If you believe that meaning in your life is something external to your existence, then I guarantee you will never find it.

If you are a blacksmith (let’s say you’re Gendry Baratheon for all you GOT fans) and you want to make a killer dagger for a friend (let’s say that’s Arya Stark), you don’t simply go pick up a chunk of dragon glass and give it to her. Rather, you heat the dragon glass and hammer it into its shape; you literally forge the dragon glass into a dagger.

The same concept applies to your life.

You don’t just find the perfect relationship or the perfect job, but rather, you find a relationship or a job and forge meaning out of them.

Just like the dragon glass, you have to figure out how you can actually better your relationship – what can you actually do to become a better wife, husband, partner, and friend?

You see, meaning doesn’t just happen in our lives, we need to create it out of something. And more importantly, we have to be willing to do that.

A blacksmith forging hot metal into a weapon.
Forge meaning like a blacksmith forges a dagger

Focus on the How … not the What

So instead of simply making a list of 10 things you’re thankful for, I want you to go a step further.

1) Start by making the list. Write down 5 -10 things you are thankful for in your life. Anything including things like your job, your romantic relationship, your education, your friends, etc.

2) Then, for each item, figure out 1 – 2 ways you can make improvements. So how can you have a happier relationship? How can you make your job more enjoyable? How can you be a better student?

Remember that it is absolutely vital for you to shape the quality of your existence. Otherwise quality will not exist for you.

Create Your Future

Get creative. Create mini challenges for yourself to make boring, tedious, and day-to-day tasks more fun. Get on websites like reddit or quora to find out how others make improvements to their lives – then use those ideas to make changes to your life that you never would’ve otherwise.

So if you’re still looking for the answers to “why am I here?”, “what is my purpose?”, and “who am I meant to become?”, then let me give you the one important general answer:

Your existence and your will to live rises out of the gap between who are now and who you can become in the future. Your meaning in life is simply your potential to live better, and let me tell you, everyone has potential.

As always, Happy Monday and a very Happy Thanksgiving to all my fellow Canadians.

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Disclaimer: I am not a medical or mental health professional. Any information and content on my website is not a substitute for professional health advice.

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One comment

  1. Great post as always my friend 🤙. I very much agree that meaning and purpose do not lie in external circumstances or people but within ourselves.

    Sincerely,
    Matt
    Aka Out of the Shadows Corvo

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