Do you have a new year’s resolution?
Better yet, is your new year’s resolution the same as last year’s resolution? Maybe it’s the same as the year before too.
I find most people (guilty as charged) make resolutions for the new year and rarely stick to them. I thought hard about why that is, and I realized that people think productivity is simply about putting in the work. But what we often forget is that the worker can’t work without the proper tools.
“So how do I get these tools, Ella?”
I’m glad you asked! Here are the three steps to do just that:
Self-care, self-development, and self-discipline. In that order.
Let me break it down.
Step 1 – Self-Care
Let’s be realistic, challenging yourself is hard. If you want to lose weight, it’s going to be hard. If you want to learn a new language, it’s going to be hard. If you want to expand your vocabulary … you guessed it … it is going to be hard!
So before you start straining yourself and committing to a bunch of work, let’s take step 1 and make challenging ourselves easier.
“Work smarter not harder”, that is a popular saying for a reason.
Take care of yourself. Don’t worry about the work yet. Give yourself time to do things you enjoy. Period.
Maybe that means painting. Or meditating. Or taking a bath every Sunday. Or playing a sport you love. Whatever it is, PLEASE just do it because it makes you happy.
If you need to take a life break to be more introspective, read about spirituality or religion, and connect with yourself on a deeper level, do that. Once you get into the habit of waking up each morning happy, you’ll be ready to take on the work.
Here is an anecdote to help put things in perspective: Quite recently, I went through an extended period where I never wanted to get out of bed or even live to the next day (not trying to be dramatic, just tellin’ it like it was). I decided to see a psychologist.
One of the things my psychologist said during conversation was, “thoughts repeated become beliefs”. Since I was committed to improving my life, I took that tid-bit of information and decided that every night before going to sleep, I would say out loud, “I am happy and I love my life”… hoping that I would one day believe that. I repeated that phrase for about 2 weeks, but it just wasn’t working – I felt like I was lying to myself.
What I then realized (with the help of my lovely psychologist) was that I needed to actually DO things that made me happy which would therefore lead me to love my life. So long story short, I took a short leave from school and work to focus on meditating, reading, drawing, painting, and spending time with family. All the things that made me happy.
Then amazingly, after a 3-4 months of living a self-care lifestyle, I hopped into bed one night and randomly said to myself, “I love my life”. WOAH! Did I just say that?! It turns out, all the things I was doing to make me happy, actually made me happy! I wanted to get out of bed each morning and set goals! I started dreaming big again and was excited for the next chapter of my life! I realized I was fully capable of living an amazing life, and I wanted to get started!
I was ready for step 2 – self-development. [Stay tuned for next week’s blog where I talk about self-development!]
As always, Happy Monday 🙂
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