Happy Monday! … Right?
*insert awkward silence*
You mean you’re not happy? You’re telling me you’re miserable because you have 5 days left of work before you can relax again?
Ok, well I really want you to be happy! And before you start questioning whether I’m oblivious to life’s problems, I’ll straight-up tell you I DO NOT THINK happiness is a 24/7 state of mind. I think happiness is something we choose to feel or find so that we can more easily be resilient in the face of adversity. This means you can be sad, anxious, stressed, or have any other negative reaction but you still decide to learn from experience, find positive aspects of your experience, and figure out how the hell you can keep moving forward.
That said, I need you to learn the key to happiness for the betterment of your health, your relationships, and your productivity. And as you may have guessed, I am going to tell you that key using this nifty analogy:
Think about the lightbulb in your kitchen. You know, the one you turned on this morning to make a cup of coffee before heading out the door.
That light works because a small wire inside the lightbulb creates a circuit of electricity, and that electricity is drawn-in from whatever source the lightbulb is plugged in to. So when you turn the light on…BOOM, HAPPINESS…wait no, I mean LIGHT! Hmmm… they are quite similar, don’t you think?
Imagine yourself as that lightbulb.
If you want to shine, the little wire circuit inside of you has to (1) create a closed circuit, and (2) be plugged into a source of electricity.
So just like the light, happiness comes from within you; it is a decision you make to regard at least some part of an experience as positive (even if that just means learning from something shitty). HOWEVER you can’t forget about “plugging-in” to good sources of electricity like family, friends, content such as books and films, work, hobbies, etc.
But… remember that even if you’re plugged-in to the right things, you can’t find true happiness unless the wire circuit inside you is complete.
To find true happiness, you have to follow the personal development loop. What this means, is you have to give yourself the right doses of self-care, self-development, and self-discipline in order to live a balanced life.
Stressed from work? Use your lunch break to assess why that is.
Concerned about money? Take 2 hours on a weekend to set-up a budget.
Want to wake up earlier? Work on getting more restful sleeps then accept that you need to wake up when your alarm goes off EVEN THOUGH that will be hard.
You can do it. But that “it” you’re looking for can only come from you.
And to clarify again, I am NOT telling you to become happy 24/7 and therefore oblivious to the challenges of life. I AM telling you it is possible to learn how to manage shitty circumstances. Because the quicker you can bounce back from a tough time or pull through a struggle, the quicker you will get back to happiness.
So why is happiness important?
1) Your relationships will improve because others will enjoy being around you.
2) Your outlook on life will improve, therefore bettering your mental health.
3) Most importantly, happiness will motivate you to continue developing yourself.
Because I’ve trained myself to see the positive aspects of life while also learning from the negative aspects, there’s nothing that can stop me from moving forward.
So in conclusion…
… remember to be like that lightbulb in your kitchen. Because once you are, you’ll shine bright for everyone around you….once you are, you’ll be happy.
So as always, I hope you have a very happy Monday ❤✌
“Outside, winter’s darkness closes in. Inside, you have found your own Light.” – Sarah Ban Breathnach
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